What Is Positive Discipline?
Ever heard of the phrase Positive Discipline? PD is a tool wherein parents, teachers and other figures of authority positively approach disciplining children by focusing on good behavior and ceasing from using anger and other negative responses.
Unlike in previous generations, aggression and even violent reactions were used to “control” and teach young ones about right and wrong. Although these may have been effective for those who were born with the periods of Traditionalists, Baby Boomers and Generation X, this may no longer be as functional for the current generation.
How To Practice Positive Discipline
First and foremost, hold your temper. Control yourself from bursting out of anger and focus on the lessons that should be evoked from the disciplining. You’ll have very little time to do this because discipline works best when done immediately. Take one to three deep breaths and begin.
Now, present choices to your children that are related to the situation at the moment. For example, you find that they drew on the walls of your living room, show them how they can do so on paper or on a drawing book instead. Then tell them to clean and wipe off the markings they’ve made (assuming they can still be taken off). This is an opportune time to let them realize why drawing on walls shouldn’t be done by explaining your point of view.
Likewise, listen. Listen to what they have to say about it. Assure them that they are being listened to.
Using the same example above, help them see that every action they make has results and what they should aim for are ones that do not have negative consequences on their part. Drawing on the wall means they’ll have to clean it up after. Whereas drawing on paper means that they will simply need to keep their masterpiece after. No cleanup required.
In addition to this, use “Yes” sentences more than “No”. This way, your youngling will also speak the word “no” less frequently. Script your word positively.
1. Positive Discipline Books:
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline
Dr. Thomas Phelan provides simple and easy to follow tips and instructions about positive discipline. The psychological and scientific studies that PD are backed by are made easier to read through his words. It’s possible to discipline misbehaving children just as it is possible to teach them what should and shouldn’t be done without having to use aggression.
2. Positive Discipline Books:
Positive Discipline A-Z
Written by three inspiring authors, this handy book is a handy guide you’ll want to go back to as often as you. Jane Nelsen Ed. D., Lynn Lott, and H. Stephen Glenn tackle specific behaviors and behavioral traits you will be confronted with through your kids. In the same way, they show you how you should handle these without posing anger or threats to them, in turn, making discipline something to look forward to instead of something that’s feared or disliked.
3. Positive Discipline Books: 2-in-1 Guide On
Fighting, tantrums, disobedience and other behavior problems can be handled without causing your child to pull away and be afraid of discipline, and without making you feel too stressed. This instructive book written by Christine J. Carter lets you have a front-seat view to how you can deal with teaching your children do’s and don’ts, with results that are long standing and effective.