Attachment Parenting tools is so much more than putting your baby in a sling and tying that around you so that you are literally inseparable (sling, carrier, same banana). It’s so much more than sleeping on the same bed with it instead of letting have its own crib. Additionally, it is so much more than always interacting with each other.
Although these are not explicitly false interpretations of attachment parenting, they are lacking in defining what this approach truly is.
In its simplest definition, attachment parenting is a method wherein parents rear their child in a way that will keep them very closely bonded, or “attached” to them both physically and emotionally. The result of this is having a close and bonded relationship with each other.
Let’s Start With What NOT To Do
Do not use “time outs” when disciplining your child. Time outs break the cycle of what you’re trying to create through attachment parenting. Not only will your tot be physically away from you, but it will also feel emotionally detached as well. Those periods where you leave your youngling on its own to ponder on the misbehavior it manifested will cause rifts in your bond as it begins to think that time outs and misbehavior make you care less about him or her.
Another no-no is to not spoil your child. Spoiling a kid can be reflected allowing it to be the leader in your relationship instead of you being the authoritative head. Similarly, spoiling will, sooner if not later, lead to more bad behavior such as selfishness, impatience, thinking he or she is always “in the right”, and tantrums. A lot of tantrums.
In addition to the two already mentioned, don’t introduce another adult into your baby’s life without being there the whole time, the first few times. That sounded repetitive but we’re sticking to it. Don’t drop him or her off at the babysitter’s or caregiver’s place and then leave. Or if it’s the other way around, the sitter will come to your home to care for it, do not take off immediately. Have some time together with the sitter and your baby. Only then can you leave your child alone with the guardian.
Attachment Parenting Tool: Birthing And Breastfeeding
These are natural attachment parenting tools in instantly attaching your children to yourselves, mommies. The amount of emotion and sense of touch are very apparent and prominent in these two. Also, the amount of time the parent and child spend together with this level of nearness to each other creates a bond even way before the child develops behavioral traits.
On your part as the parent (Obviously, the mom. Not unless you, dad, lactate as well. Kidding), it will be an almost smooth ride because all you’ll need to do is continue what it natural to you, which is to continue supporting the life of your child by letting it breastfeed from you. We can’t put it any more straightforward than that.
Attachment Parenting Tools: Baby Sling
There isn’t such an item as a specially made attachment parenting baby sling. Any baby sling will work for this. However, we need you to pay attention to the details of how you should “sling” your child to the front of your upper body.
Your baby’s face should be visible at all times to you. In the same way, its line of sight should never be obstructed by a covering or cloth of some sort. Also, since it will be facing you while in the sling or carrier, its face should not be squeezed against your chest. Be sure that its posture and neck alignment are comfortable and upright to avoid this.
Reminder: Check pictures of the correct ways of carrying a baby in a sling to prevent positions that are not safe.
More than these, attachment parenting should always center on the closeness of the persons involved in the relationship between parent and child. These tools merely enhance it and are reminders for you to regularly seek to strive that you create a closeness between you and your baby. What you’re aiming for is so that this will result in building a foundation in keeping a strong bond even once your child is older.