How To Be A Positive Parent
Positive Parenting Defined
Positive parenting is being sensitive to, aware of, and centered on the needs of your child, building a strong relationship with one another by understanding these needs through its eyes and by creating an environment where there is love, care and respect between the two of you.
This approach allows you to rear them away from temper tantrums and misbehavior, which, if left uncheck turns into rebellion. You can do so by inculcating in them patience, self-discipline and self-control.
Principles Of Positive Parenting
1.Listen to your children
Don’t only hear them. He or she should always feel secure in you so that he or she is able to express his or her thoughts freely. Assure your child that your attention will always be on him or her when he or she has something to say. This will not only train your tot to be honest and not hide things from you, but it will clarify misconceptions about why they behave in a specific manner in specific situations.
Let The Goal Be To Understand Discipline
It’s not just obeying to avoid punishment. In positive parenting, what you want is for your child to understand that discipline should be a way of life. Likewise, it isn’t being strict about certain preferences you may have but it should mold their character so that they learn of self-control and keeping their temper at bay.
3. Never shame them into discipline.
Never ever do this. If your children misbehave, talk about the positives, such as what could have been done to make the situation better. The first move is to always speak of a positive trait they have, then tell them of the misbehavior done, remind them of the consequences. Finally encourage them that they are able to do the right thing as this is a lesson learned for both of you.
4. Make sure that you set ground rules and follow through with consequences.
A lot of parents have rules but rarely do anything when these are disobeyed. Or if they are disobeyed, they merely ignore the act of disobedience itself. Rules are set to put loving discipline in motion and not to instill fear. So if your children do not follow your rules, explain why they will need to go through the consequences. Furthermore, do not reprimand them in anger, but in concern so that they understand that the punishment is for their good.
5. Always create quality time together.
In positive parenting, this is just as crucial as the rest of its principles but is the most neglected. Let your children see that you are willing to be with them whether it’s during playtime, mealtime, etc. The likelihood of spending less and less quality time as they become adults is sometimes inevitable. However, while they are young, time should be a priority. Also, get your creative juices going for the times you spend together. Don’t just be there. Be present and be present for your child.