A Brief Introduction To Positive Discipline
Developing good behavior in children requires much patience, instruction, follow-up, and care from parents. Much of the learning that happens in this dimension in your child’s brain is from the environment it is constantly in, which is therefore, your home. How we talk to, treat, play with, teach and interact with them is a part of this process.
Furthermore, what they see in the way we communicate with other people whether face to face or over the phone also affect the way they will respond to others. Our emotions and reactions have the same influence on them as well.
Why Practice Positive Discipline?
Studies and research show that children are able to model good behavior better and respond to discipline more effectively when taught in a positive manner. Positive discipline is all about focusing on, well, not to sound redundant, positivity.
Aggression may force kids into obedience, but they will be obeying out of fear which, in the long run, will lose its hold on them as they mature and learn how to make decisions on their own. Using anger and strong words will do the trick while they are young. However, what we may not be aware of is that these will have long standing effects on their emotional health as they grow up, and might even strain their relationship with you.
Wielding positive discipline the right way produces the right results in your kids. Your aim is not to make them afraid of you, but to allow them to love and respect you and your authority enough so they always listen to what you say. Only then can obedience be natural and nurturing instead of something obligatory and laborious.
You want your children to be happy, not constantly fearful, distraught or bitter against you. The first is of course, achievable only through PD.
Is Positive Discipline Applicable In Any Age?
Yes. Definitely. Your child is changing and growing month after month and year after year. Even until the time they are able to think for themselves and slowly be more attracted to influencers outside the home, we’re talking pre-current-post teenage years, discipline is still important in making sure their character and morals are shaped in the right away. Also, interestingly enough, as they become adults, the outcome of your positive discipline actually turns into impactful life guidelines they frequently go back to even without them realizing it.
When Should I Start Using Positive Disciple
You should start the moment you sense that your child can already respond to what you say and has an understanding (though very little) of doing what mommy or what daddy wants me to do. There isn’t a specific age for this since children’s levels of cognitive development differ from one another. Similarly, it will up to you to be sensitivity as to the stage when your young one starts responding and reacting to your words and actions.